The Inner Work
RETHINK.REMOVE.REBUILD
RETHINK. REMOVE. REBUILD
You can be a woman of faith, accomplished and capable — and still second-guess yourself.
Because achievement doesn’t automatically change what you believe about yourself.
You can build the career, lead the team, raise the family, serve everyone around you, and know all the right things — while old beliefs, experiences, expectations, and other people’s voices are still quietly influencing the way you see yourself.
That’s why I believe in the inner work.
The inner work is the willingness to get curious about what’s happening beneath the surface. To ask why you believe what you believe. Why you shrink in certain rooms. Why you need someone’s approval. Why you keep questioning a decision you already know is right. And whether the story you’ve been telling yourself is actually true.
For me, this isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about removing what has gotten in the way of who you already are.
My approach is simple: Rethink. Remove. Rebuild.
RETHINK
Question what you've been believing.
Not every belief you carry is true simply because you’ve believed it for a long time.
Rethink is where we get curious. We examine the assumptions, labels, experiences, expectations, and old stories that have shaped the way you see yourself.
Who told you that?
Where did you learn that?
And is it actually true?
Sometimes one good question can expose a belief you’ve been organizing your entire life around.
REMOVE
Let go of what no longer serves you.
Once you recognize what isn’t true, you don’t have to keep carrying it.
Remove is about releasing the lies, misplaced expectations, people-pleasing, comparison, shame, and other people’s definitions of who you should be.
This isn’t pretending your experiences didn’t happen.
It’s deciding they no longer get to define you.
REBUILD
Build from what is true.
This is where confidence becomes more than something you try to feel.
You begin rebuilding the way you think, speak, decide, set boundaries, lead, and show up from a stronger foundation — one rooted in truth, faith, identity, and a growing trust in yourself.
And little by little, the woman you know yourself to be on the inside starts showing up in the way you actually live.
Why This Matters To Me
I’ve learned that being strong and knowing your worth aren’t the same thing.
My own life required me to rethink what I believed, remove things I had carried that were never mine to keep, and rebuild from a foundation of truth.
That process shaped the way I coach, teach, lead — and live.
It’s also why I’m not interested in helping women get better at looking confident.
I want to help you become grounded enough in who you are that you don’t need the room to agree with you before you trust yourself.
Because the goal was never to become someone else.
The goal is to know who you are — and live like you believe it.
The goal is to know who you are — and live like you believe it.
Where the Three R's Began...
“I'm the girl from the wrong side of the tracks.”
It shot through my mind.
But this time, I stopped and questioned it.
Who told me that? Where did I learn that? Was it actually true?
And when I really looked at it, I realized it wasn’t true at all. It was a lie that had slipped in somewhere along the way — and I bought it.
That one belief was connected to so many others I had carried from my childhood:
Unwanted.
Unloved.
Abandoned.
The throwaway.
The experiences that contributed to those beliefs were real. I wasn’t going to pretend they hadn’t happened.
But what happened to me and what I came to believe about myself because of what happened to me were two very different things.
That distinction changed everything.
Without knowing it at the time, I was doing the work I now call Rethink. Remove. Rebuild.
Rethink
I had to question what I had accepted as truth.
What am I believing about myself?
Where did that belief come from?
And is it actually true?
Just because you’ve believed something for a long time doesn’t make it true.
Remove
Once I recognized the lie, I had a choice.
I could continue carrying an identity built around what had happened to me — or I could stop giving those old beliefs the authority to tell me who I was.
What am I carrying that no longer belongs?
What label, expectation, lie, or old story have I mistaken for my identity?
What would I need to let go of to move forward?
Removing doesn’t mean denying what happened.
It means deciding that what happened doesn’t get to define you.
Rebuild
And then came the most important question:
If that isn’t who I am, then who am I?
I had to rebuild from truth.
That meant learning to see myself differently. To believe that I had value. To recognize what God said about me. And eventually, to make decisions and live my life from that identity instead of the one my past had handed me.
That’s what rebuilding looks like.
What is actually true about me?
What do I want to build my life on now?
And what would change if I started living like I believed it?
Maybe it's time to question the story.
I wrote The Girl in the Garage: 3 Steps to Letting Go of Your Past in 2019.
I didn’t have the words Rethink. Remove. Rebuild. for this process yet.
But looking back, I can see it was there all along.
And maybe there’s something you’ve been saying about yourself for so long that it feels like a fact, too.
I’m not good enough.
I’m too much.
I’m not a leader.
I always mess things up.
People don’t listen to me.
I can’t trust myself.
This is just who I am.
Before you build another day of your life around it, stop and ask:
Who told you that?
Is it true?
And if it isn’t…
What needs to be rethought?
What needs to be removed?
And what are you ready to rebuild?
Because you don’t have to deny what happened to you to question what you came to believe about yourself because of it.
Rethink. Remove. Rebuild.
"You have a way of making people believe they're capable of more."
What could change in your life if you started believing you were capable of more?
RETHINK
Maybe I’m more capable than I thought.
REMOVE
The old story about what I can’t do.
REBUILD
A new belief about who I am and what I’m capable of.